The Marriage Forum
...an uncommon perspective for those facing divorce
If you are facing divorce, there must be some serious difficulties that you have been unable to resolve. Mediation is sometimes offered - or imposed - as a method of 'conflict-resolution,' but the purpose of mediation is typically to force 'settlements,' ignoring the important complaints and injuries in the interest of 'dividing things up' and clearing the docket.
Did you exchange marriage vows in a church? If so, do you know what the Apostle Paul said? He told us that we are supposed to enlist our church friends to help us resolve conflicts in a 'family spirit' rather than a 'legal spirit,' nestling our fragile family relationships in loving hands, like cradling eggs in foam cartons to survive a rough ride.
When the courts become involved, most churches shy away, thinking that help is beyond their capability. Or maybe you, yourself, give up trying. Does your situation seem hopeless? Do you feel your marriage is dead? Remember, God resurrects from the dead.
We can coach your church to help you, by teaching them how to apply Biblical conciliation. Biblical conciliation is God's 'relationship medicine,' supernatural wisdom.
If both spouses will stop focusing on their differences long enough to look towards God's wisdom together, they'll begin to share the same vision for an amicable agreement. But even if your spouse does not go along, blessings will eventually follow, if only you will do what's right in the sight of God and your fellows.
In your special circumstance, God's wisdom is the ideal course of action that is best for everyone concerned, and even more important if you have children that you love. Remember God's wisdom from the Bible story of King Solomon pretending to split the baby in half? Sometimes a small key of wisdom unlocks a big door, that then allows a way out of a big mess.
Do what is best for everyone involved. "Render to Caesar the things that are Caesar's and to God the things that are God's." Therefore, in secular court, find a wise lawyer to help show you what is best. Meanwhile, in your church, seek friends who will help you find the Lord's wisdom.
For more information, contact Marriage Forum.